I have long said that there is nothing wrong with a gay male having sexual fantasies about a straight male. It is how my erotica series for Kiiroo, “Tales of a Male Straight Porn Actor’s Husband” was born. However, there are some gay males who take those fantasies too far. Trying to make them reality. They will hook up with guys who claim to be “straight” to the mainstream, but live secret gay lives. This kind of living has come to be known as “on the down low”, or “on the DL”. Initially, it was a label imposed upon Black and Latino males to make white males seem more sexually evolved and liberated. However, considering the number of white males living double lives (some as content creators), that term has definitely come to run through the entire skin color spectrum.

Case in point, I pointed out in a past article titled “Denied Self Becomes Violent Self”, self-denial of one’s degree of homosexuality (like DL guys) can lead to violent tendencies. I know firsthand because my Aries temper was much worse before my coming out. Some today call me fiery. Well, before my coming out, words of truth were just a warning shot. My truth-saying was not my primary weapon as it is today.

This idea of hooking up with a “straight” or DL male (not man) is yet another behavior glamorized by gay porn that is dangerous in real life. Leading many gay males to seek out “straight” males as a means to stroke their egos and validate their sex appeal. When in reality, all parties are lying to themselves.

For many of these “straight” males don’t want their identities known. Hence why if they appear in porn, they will have their faces blurred out or wear some kind of hood or mask. And even if they don’t hide their face, it still is disrespectful to the gay male. Because the gay male is really being used as nothing more than a hole or a pole. Such dismissal of humanity is why these hook-ups can lead to violent attacks, even death for some. As the in-denial male feels guilt after the tryst and wants the sex partner silenced. You can try to dismiss David Arquette’s character’s death in the 1996 film “Johns” to be just a scene in a movie. But in reality, it happens all too often.

Speaking of “Johns” leads to me addressing “gay-for-pay” porn actors and prostitutes, and how their defenders (hirers, tricks & fans alike) need to take note of how male anatomy works. For a male cannot penetrate an orifice unless his penis is erect. So if that erection is not from arousal sparked and maintained by that male body he is penetrating, then he suffers from some level of psychosis. For if he can honestly claim to be straight and is a member of free society, no matter how many erectile dysfunction medications he claims to take, if he can still penetrate a male body to the point of orgasm, then he practices a level of shutting off his mind that makes him dangerous. And if you truly care about your existence and well-being, you will distance yourself from such a male. That is a message to the gay males pursuing such “straight” males, as well as the females these “straight” guys claim to be in relationships with. Now, when it comes to those porn producers, clients, and party promoters who hire them, if/when that aforementioned violent tendency from sexual repression shows itself at their expense, I feel no sympathy for them.

Before anyone goes to the line “sexuality is fluid”, follow my Instagram post in which I say, “Don’t tell me lies. Don’t give me excuses. For I am not your mirror.”

Some might wonder why I have such a disdain for those who consider themselves “gay- for-pay”. The reason why is simple. I watch porn to see exhibitionists, not prostitutes. And then I got into porn to be among exhibitionists and not prostitutes.

That might sound like I’m against sex workers to some, but it’s not. For I understand being so backed into a financial corner that your body is all you have left to give to make money. So I support them doing what they must at the time. But when one must go that path, it is an ugly task that no one in their right minds wants shown on camera. In holding myself accountable for my own prostituting moments, it is one of the reasons I speak so ill of some of the movies I’ve done. Most notably, “Love of the Dick IV”. For having sex in which one or both parties has no sexual attraction to the other, then putting it on camera is a definite cry for help.

When I see guys either chasing after guys claiming to be “straight”, or a gay content creator touting a tryst with a “straight” guy, one question I always have is…

How out and proud are you really?

They can’t really be too proud of themselves. Because no one with pride in their sexual orientation would want to share it with someone who is not just as proud. That is a sentiment that should be universal for the entire gay community.

Another part of the problem is that we are in this age of abbreviating too much. Then have the fuck-faced audacity to get pissed when we see actions that are contradictory to that abbreviated term when the misunderstanding could have been avoided if one would used the more wordy description. This is why when some try to dismiss my defining as a homoromantic bisexual, claiming I should just say “bisexual”, I dismiss them in return. Because I have enough awareness to know that if I don’t say the full term, I will send out a mixed message.

Case in point, if a prospective gay male sees me in any level of a sexual encounter with a female, my defining as a “homoromantic bisexual” lets him know he and I are still a possibility for a long-term relationship. Meanwhile, for any female I am in such an encounter with, that term makes it clear to her that she will not be upgraded to dating, girlfriend, or wife. But if I jump on the Abbreviation Bandwagon and define as “bisexual”, she might think she has a shot at an upgrade. And I would have no one but myself to blame when she feels misled. These “straight” guys need to start doing the same in publicly defining themselves. USE. YOUR. WORDS.

With that said, it took me years to come out and even longer to get to the point of self-assurance displayed by my videos, articles, and in person. So why would I want to give my time and body to someone who is so nowhere near my level of self-assurance? So much so that they won’t even define their sexual orientation by anything close to the proper terminology? Especially when they put their actions on full display for public consumption.

For it is enough of a stress that so many gay males claim to be out, but are nowhere near proud. Proven by their inability to get through a fuck without doing some form of substance abuse. That is enough false advertising of “pride” to deal with. So there is no way in hell I’m entertaining someone who falsely claims the entire existence of their gayness.

With that said, I am not hooking up with such guys. Nor am I supporting any porn studio or content creators that make content with that brand of “straight” guy. For I am about promoting real pride in one’s sexuality. And actions that make this article necessary are definitely not it.