Still seeing beneath the surface of all we’ve been told about sex, life & love.

  • Dumbing Down My Sexy For… Acceptance?

    Only one idiot named Gilad has ever had the nerve to come close to requesting that I “dumb down my sexy” as the title says. And at the time, we were at of all places, the NYC gay bar, The Cock. However, since action speaks louder than words, it is what the actions of certain Read more

  • Cruising & Empaths

    According to the Oxford Dictionary, an empath is a person with the ability to perceive the mental or emotional state of another individual.   With that in mind, imagine how such an ability translates in a sexually permissive space. Initially, you would think that would put their lust on overload. For some, perhaps. However, if you have followed my writings in articles and on social media about behaviors I’ve witnessed in sexually permissive spaces, then Read more

  • Interracial Encounters: My Private vs. My Public

    The mindset I have when I have interracial sex in private is simple. It is the same as it would be if I was to be with another Black man. We were 2 people that got together for a physical and spiritual connection. Color is not consciously on my mind. Of course, I know the Read more

  • “Kiss Me” Backstory

    My micro-poem “Kiss Me” is definitely a case of making a long story short. But at least what you’re about to read is a sexy long story. It’s from a flashback to an encounter even before my studio-based porn days. So that’s over 20 years ago. It was one night at Splash Bar, a (no Read more

  • Yes, There Are More Black Bottoms In Interracial Scenes… You’re Welcome

    Yes, the title is correct. I said, “You’re welcome.” For about 7 years ago, I wrote a list on Tumblr partially crediting myself for the slight uptick at the number of times black males bottomed in interracial scenes. And since no performer of any color publicly addressed the issue until I came along, and I Read more

  • Your Outfit Screams, “Top”, Not You Being Black

    Over the weekend, I went to a gay cruising bar and heard a black male echo much of what I have said about the perceived roles Black males are supposed to take in interracial sex relations. He said that guys (mainly white males) never think he can bottom because he’s black. And that if a Read more