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  • Dumbing Down My Sexy For… Acceptance?

    Only one idiot named Gilad has ever had the nerve to come close to requesting that I “dumb down my sexy” as the title says. And at the time, we were at of all places, the NYC gay bar, The Cock. However, since action speaks louder than words, it is…

  • Cruising & Empaths

    According to the Oxford Dictionary, an empath is a person with the ability to perceive the mental or emotional state of another individual.   With that in mind, imagine how such an ability translates in a sexually permissive space. Initially, you would think that would put their lust on overload. For some, perhaps. However, if you have followed my writings in articles and on social media…

  • Interracial Encounters: My Private vs. My Public

    The mindset I have when I have interracial sex in private is simple. It is the same as it would be if I was to be with another Black man. We were 2 people that got together for a physical and spiritual connection. Color is not consciously on my mind.…

  • “Kiss Me” Backstory

    My micro-poem “Kiss Me” is definitely a case of making a long story short. But at least what you’re about to read is a sexy long story. It’s from a flashback to an encounter even before my studio-based porn days. So that’s over 20 years ago. It was one night…

  • Yes, There Are More Black Bottoms In Interracial Scenes… You’re Welcome

    Yes, the title is correct. I said, “You’re welcome.” For about 7 years ago, I wrote a list on Tumblr partially crediting myself for the slight uptick at the number of times black males bottomed in interracial scenes. And since no performer of any color publicly addressed the issue until…

  • Your Outfit Screams, “Top”, Not You Being Black

    Over the weekend, I went to a gay cruising bar and heard a black male echo much of what I have said about the perceived roles Black males are supposed to take in interracial sex relations. He said that guys (mainly white males) never think he can bottom because he’s…

  • Why I Side-eye😒 Chelsea & Hell’s Kitchen Gay Spaces

    On a recent trip to The Cock, I was speaking to a White male near the coat check area. I’ll get to the importance of his color in a moment. He mentioned how after being at that bar one night, he went to an after-hours party that was “lit”… in…

  • Don’t S.A. A Writer… Don’t S.A. THIS GOOD Writer

    Recently, I went to a gay cruising bar and had an incident that exemplified something I said when I was interviewed by Damon Jacobs for one of his Tub Talk interviews. The interview was about unwanted touch in sexually permissive spaces. In that interview, I stated that I have a…

  • Don’t Judge My Cruising When You Can’t Cruise For Yourself

    When you frequent a bar or club, you may become friendly with the staff… So…, as I was leaving the bar, I said goodnight to the doorman. He said goodnight back and added, “See you tomorrow?” I replied, “I might.”… As I was responding with those 2 little words, I…

  • Why All Is Not Good With A Hood

    I have written before about why I never wanted to make a video with someone wearing a hood. I won’t include a link to that article because while that rule still stands, some things have changed since then. Enough that I might actually get rid of that article. Such changes…