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  • “Kiss Me” Backstory

    My micro-poem “Kiss Me” is definitely a case of making a long story short. But at least what you’re about to read is a sexy long story. It’s from a flashback to an encounter even before my studio-based porn days. So that’s over 20 years ago. It was one night…

  • Yes, There Are More Black Bottoms In Interracial Scenes… You’re Welcome

    Yes, the title is correct. I said, “You’re welcome.” For about 7 years ago, I wrote a list on Tumblr partially crediting myself for the slight uptick at the number of times black males bottomed in interracial scenes. And since no performer of any color publicly addressed the issue until…

  • Your Outfit Screams, “Top”, Not You Being Black

    Over the weekend, I went to a gay cruising bar and heard a black male echo much of what I have said about the perceived roles Black males are supposed to take in interracial sex relations. He said that guys (mainly white males) never think he can bottom because he’s…

  • Why I Side-eye😒 Chelsea & Hell’s Kitchen Gay Spaces

    On a recent trip to The Cock, I was speaking to a White male near the coat check area. I’ll get to the importance of his color in a moment. He mentioned how after being at that bar one night, he went to an after-hours party that was “lit”… in…

  • Don’t S.A. A Writer… Don’t S.A. THIS GOOD Writer

    Recently, I went to a gay cruising bar and had an incident that exemplified something I said when I was interviewed by Damon Jacobs for one of his Tub Talk interviews. The interview was about unwanted touch in sexually permissive spaces. In that interview, I stated that I have a…

  • Don’t Judge My Cruising When You Can’t Cruise For Yourself

    When you frequent a bar or club, you may become friendly with the staff… So…, as I was leaving the bar, I said goodnight to the doorman. He said goodnight back and added, “See you tomorrow?” I replied, “I might.”… As I was responding with those 2 little words, I…

  • Why All Is Not Good With A Hood

    I have written before about why I never wanted to make a video with someone wearing a hood. I won’t include a link to that article because while that rule still stands, some things have changed since then. Enough that I might actually get rid of that article. Such changes…

  • My Resilience Is Generational

    A former co-worker of mine mentioned seeing a former assistant manager at The Pleasure Chest named Alex Valdes, but goes on social media by the name Reagan Holiday. They said that they saw her at an event and somehow, my name came up. My former co-worker said that Alex said,…

  • Sex Is A Dance

    I see sex as a dance. I believe we all do. The motion. The intimacy of the act. The intent of connecting physically and spiritually… Even if it is just for a one-night stand, or a more fleeting moment like a darkroom tryst.

  • Gay Males, Learn BJ Etiquette

    Believe it or not, in any form of social interaction, there is an etiquette to follow. Many of which are based in common sense and common courtesy. The only ones who will deny this, or outright ignore it are those who are self-entitled. Well, how one plays at a sex…