Still seeing beneath the surface of all we’ve been told about sex, life & love.

  • Why All Is Not Good With A Hood

    I have written before about why I never wanted to make a video with someone wearing a hood. I won’t include a link to that article because while that rule still stands, some things have changed since then. Enough that I might actually get rid of that article. Such changes as: The exception to my Read more

  • My Resilience Is Generational

    A former co-worker of mine mentioned seeing a former assistant manager at The Pleasure Chest named Alex Valdes, but goes on social media by the name Reagan Holiday. They said that they saw her at an event and somehow, my name came up. My former co-worker said that Alex said, “Me and LeNair didn’t get Read more

  • Sex Is A Dance

    I see sex as a dance. I believe we all do. The motion. The intimacy of the act. The intent of connecting physically and spiritually… Even if it is just for a one-night stand, or a more fleeting moment like a darkroom tryst. Read more

  • Gay Males, Learn BJ Etiquette

    Believe it or not, in any form of social interaction, there is an etiquette to follow. Many of which are based in common sense and common courtesy. The only ones who will deny this, or outright ignore it are those who are self-entitled. Well, how one plays at a sex party is no different. I Read more

  • Why I’ve Rarely Played With Black Males In Gay Spaces

    I’m sure many have seen me in gay play spaces over the years. However, one thing they probably have not seen too often is me playing with Black males. There are some reasons for that. And those reasons come in stages. Read more

  • Not My Proudest Moment, But Definitely A Provoked One

    I laid into someone calling them the N-word. And not ending with an “-a”, but a hard “-er”. Shocking since anyone who knows me knows that is a word I hardly ever say in any connotation. And if I say it with an “-er”, it means you reeeeeally pissed me off… Read more