Still seeing beneath the surface of all we’ve been told about sex, life & love.

  • Why I Side-eye😒 Chelsea & Hell’s Kitchen Gay Spaces

    On a recent trip to The Cock, I was speaking to a White male near the coat check area. I’ll get to the importance of his color in a moment. He mentioned how after being at that bar one night, he went to an after-hours party that was “lit”… in Hell’s Kitchen. The mention of Read more

  • Don’t S.A. A Writer… Don’t S.A. THIS GOOD Writer

    Recently, I went to a gay cruising bar and had an incident that exemplified something I said when I was interviewed by Damon Jacobs for one of his Tub Talk interviews. The interview was about unwanted touch in sexually permissive spaces. In that interview, I stated that I have a 3-strike rule in regards to Read more

  • Don’t Judge My Cruising When You Can’t Cruise For Yourself

    When you frequent a bar or club, you may become friendly with the staff… So…, as I was leaving the bar, I said goodnight to the doorman. He said goodnight back and added, “See you tomorrow?” I replied, “I might.”… As I was responding with those 2 little words, I heard a scoff behind me.… Read more

  • Why All Is Not Good With A Hood

    I have written before about why I never wanted to make a video with someone wearing a hood. I won’t include a link to that article because while that rule still stands, some things have changed since then. Enough that I might actually get rid of that article. Such changes as: The exception to my Read more

  • My Resilience Is Generational

    A former co-worker of mine mentioned seeing a former assistant manager at The Pleasure Chest named Alex Valdes, but goes on social media by the name Reagan Holiday. They said that they saw her at an event and somehow, my name came up. My former co-worker said that Alex said, “Me and LeNair didn’t get Read more

  • Sex Is A Dance

    I see sex as a dance. I believe we all do. The motion. The intimacy of the act. The intent of connecting physically and spiritually… Even if it is just for a one-night stand, or a more fleeting moment like a darkroom tryst. Read more