Still seeing beneath the surface of all we’ve been told about sex, life & love.

  • “Kiss Me” Backstory

    My micro-poem “Kiss Me” is definitely a case of making a long story short. But at least what you’re about to read is a sexy long story. It’s from a flashback to an encounter even before my studio-based porn days. So that’s over 20 years ago. It was one night at Splash Bar, a (no Read more

  • Yes, There Are More Black Bottoms In Interracial Scenes… You’re Welcome

    Yes, the title is correct. I said, “You’re welcome.” For about 7 years ago, I wrote a list on Tumblr partially crediting myself for the slight uptick at the number of times black males bottomed in interracial scenes. And since no performer of any color publicly addressed the issue until I came along, and I Read more

  • Your Outfit Screams, “Top”, Not You Being Black

    Over the weekend, I went to a gay cruising bar and heard a black male echo much of what I have said about the perceived roles Black males are supposed to take in interracial sex relations. He said that guys (mainly white males) never think he can bottom because he’s black. And that if a Read more

  • Why I Side-eye😒 Chelsea & Hell’s Kitchen Gay Spaces

    On a recent trip to The Cock, I was speaking to a White male near the coat check area. I’ll get to the importance of his color in a moment. He mentioned how after being at that bar one night, he went to an after-hours party that was “lit”… in Hell’s Kitchen. The mention of Read more

  • Don’t S.A. A Writer… Don’t S.A. THIS GOOD Writer

    Recently, I went to a gay cruising bar and had an incident that exemplified something I said when I was interviewed by Damon Jacobs for one of his Tub Talk interviews. The interview was about unwanted touch in sexually permissive spaces. In that interview, I stated that I have a 3-strike rule in regards to Read more

  • Don’t Judge My Cruising When You Can’t Cruise For Yourself

    When you frequent a bar or club, you may become friendly with the staff… So…, as I was leaving the bar, I said goodnight to the doorman. He said goodnight back and added, “See you tomorrow?” I replied, “I might.”… As I was responding with those 2 little words, I heard a scoff behind me.… Read more